Some of us have aging parents who live out of state, but who have medical needs that we would like to help out with. Also, we miss our parents and want them to live closer! Often times, the demands of family and careers don’t allow us to move closer to them, but maybe they are willing to move closer to us. Here are 4 things you should think about to make the transition easier.
- Is this really what they want? Or are you forcing the issue? Yes. I know you want your parents to move closer to you so that you can care for them. But is this something they are ready for now? Consider setting up a short and long term moving goal. Start the process of preparing their current home for a move with an eye towards the future: will they be more ready 6 months from now? 12 months? 2 years?
- Start cleaning out your parents house now. Most parents have, at the very least, an attic, basement, or some other room that serves as a warehouse for their children’s things. That stuffed animal collection you were too old to have sit on your bed but too attached to give away? It’s probably in a box at your parent’s home. Every gold painted plastic trophy you received since your first year in t-ball when you were 4? In a different box somewhere in your parents house. Make the time, schedule the vacation, and start purging. Invite your siblings, order a pizza, and enjoy a week of laughter and tears as you all go through the piles of memories warehoused in the basement.
- Are finances in order? Do you know the value of your parent’s current home? Do they still have a mortgage on it, or is their mortgage paid off? What is the market like in the neighborhood your parents are moving to? Savings accounts? Income? All of this should be looked at honestly as you and your parents prepare to live closer to each other.
- Make a wish list. Your parents might be living in a big, beautiful home now, but will they need a home the same size in the new location? Will they need a home at all? Or is a condo more inline with their new life? What else do they need in this move? Take some time and talk over what you are looking for at the new location. Distance to children’s home(s), whether they prefer a house or condo, particular amenities they’d like to live near, and any other specific housing features, should be discussed and put onto a house wish list.
Moving your parents closer to you doesn’t have to be as daunting a task as it may initially sound. Use my four tips to help prepare you and your parents for the move and you’re sure to make the process easier. If you aren’t already working with a realtor, feel free to give me a call to help you with the house hunting. I have experience in these types of housing searches, I care, and I am willing to go the extra mile to make my clients happy.
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